Often I am too much the perfectionist. When I know I can't achieve a certain level of quality, certain things don't feel worth doing.
That "level of quality," it's solvable. Has been for a long time, but I refuse to choose, to make a commitment I might regret a month from now, or the month after that, or even 6 months or a year later. I could make a different choice later, but I don't feel like I'll be able to justify it. I don't want to have to.
Just more perfectionism.
I looked through some photographs I took last summer, weeding and ranking, trying to choose. I should just begin with the one I know is a Yes. What follows will follow.
When I saw that Creative LIVE was doing 28 Days with Sue Bryce, I knew it would be too much to watch in its entirety but that it would be cool. I lamented that I have zero desire to start a contemporary portrait/glamour studio because she's going to show how it's done. I caught part of the second day though when she was talking about the fears people have that hold them back and how to overcome them.
Sue's talk in a nutshell: the blocks we have/feel are not really fight or flight fear. It's not feeling good enough due to one or a combination of the following:
•Obsession with the possibility of FailureHer mental script runs in a sing-song voice with a Kiwi accent to say, "Yeah, I had a bit of trauma over there. I've got a bit of self hate, but I'm working on it."
•Small Thinking - Negative Voice
In essence, Yeah, that sucked, but that's not how it is now, and I'm not going to let that stop me.
Recognize your self hate for what it is and tell it to shut up.
UPDATED: Now you can watch her talk for FREE on Youtube. Thanks, Sue & Creative LIVE!
My only push back to her talk (which would fall into her victim mentality category) is, "But what if what you've been through is not done? Is not going to be done?" It just makes it harder to visualize it as past and metaphorically "over there."
Do you struggle with perfectionism or feelings of unworthiness? How do you overcome it?
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